09 Mar Low Self-esteem is like having your handbrake on-Time Line Therapy will help.
Do you see yourself having low self-esteem or do you feel your self-confidence is low?
Can you grasp that these emotions really make you feel that life is slow, hard and less than what it should be.
When you love yourself not only does your self-esteem improve, it also makes you feel more self -confident.
You may not know it, but self-esteem and self-confidence are two separate things, although it is possible, of course, to feel like you have both. In this discussion we’ll talk about them both, so you can gain some insight. Also, I’ll offer a few suggestions on how to improve both.
Self-confidence relates to how you feel about your abilities and can vary across situations and times.
For example, you may have low self-confidence when it comes to large social gatherings, but you might feel perfectly confident around a small group in a social setting.
You may be a confident reader and writer but have low self-confidence when doing the household budget or accounting.
With self-confidence, you can vary from feeling quite happy and content with your abilities to feeling low and frustrated and self-deprecating depending on what task or situation you find yourself in.
Low self-confidence often leads to feelings where your inner voice tells you “I don’t trust myself here”.
Self-esteem, on the other hand, is how you feel about yourself overall, across all situations and times.
It relates to how positive you regard yourself, or how much self-love you have.
A lot of our self-esteem is based on relationships we have had in the past, and what relationships we have in the present.
With low self-esteem, your inner dialogue could say things like “I’m not good enough” or “I’m useless/worthless” etc.
However, self-esteem can improve when you love yourself and also hold your own values and opinions of yourself highly.
So, you might have high self-esteem, but low self-confidence in certain situations.
Or you may have high self confidence in a particular area, but low overall self-esteem.
Or, of course, may experience both.
Buddhist teachings, that show the path to becoming fully awake, as if after a winter’s hibernation and moving towards a more “perfect” state, explains…”you yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserves your love and affection.”
I just love that quote!
I work with my clients to help them move through their obstacles with Hypnosis.
I love sharing some of my insights and I have created some strategies which you can try on your own to break through your ceiling of low self-esteem into the realm of confidence.
- Be conscious of your self-talk or internal dialogue and change it from negative words and language to more positive, upbeat words. I suggest to use positive affirmations, mantras, Time Line Therapy, NLP, Hypnosis and PSYCH-K®
- Surround yourself with positive people.
- Think about the significant relationships you have around you at the moment, then ask yourself if they are supportive, encouraging and loving towards you. If not, then perhaps spend less time with those people.
- Learn to handle mistakes and setbacks as positive learning experiences.
- Be kind and loving to others. That way you might learn to treat yourself a little kinder too.
- Become more confident in your skills so you can see value in yourself. Take a refresher course or try something new that you’ve always wanted to do.
- Value your knowledge and practise, practise, practise your skill set.
I can work alongside you to take the handbrake off and to help you have love and affection for the most important person in your life…YOU!!!
As usual, please comment below, or contact me if you’d like to work on these issues some more. Or just let me know in the comment section if this has helped clarify things, or even if you’re trying some of these suggestions.
I’d love to get some of your feedback. And above all, love yourself just a little bit more today than you did yesterday!