29 May Motherhood and Perfectionism: PSYCH-K® and your Happiness.
Motherhood makes us vulnerable, there’s no denying it.
From the day our new-born arrives, a little person owns us heart and soul, and relies on us for everything.
The mere thought of any harm coming to then can make us feel fearful and worried.
Sure, things can go wrong on the journey to adulthood, and we often just put one foot in front of the other.
But we manage, survive and thrive.
Do you want to let go of perfectionism as you negotiate your role as a mum?
“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect.
It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections”
- Are you caught between the wisdom of your mother and the current perfectionist trends on social media?
- Has motherhood brought out the perfectionist in you?
- Do you wish you could be less uptight and more spontaneous?
- Do you want to let go of intense worry and fear that “something” might go wrong?
- Would you like to be a happy mum instead of an unhappy, stressed, perfectionist mum?
Perfectionist mothers, however, are not only vulnerable and occasionally overwhelmed, they also have the belief that they must raise a child to be popular, accomplished, happy, successful and talented.
This invisible internal pressure of perfectionism can spoil the joys of motherhood and create stress patterns and destructive health issues.
Competition amongst other mums can also be a trigger for perfectionism, for example issues in the first few days and years such as:
- Breastfeeding
- Using a dummy
- Sleep training
- Reaching milestones
And on it goes through childhood and adolescence
The teen years are full of trigger points for our kids, such as anxiety, depression, drug use and poor social choices.
A perfectionist mum may be so focused on their child’s status, popularity and achievement prospects that an unreasonable amount of pressure is put on the child.
Attributes such as kindness, creativity, curiosity and resilience can be just as important, if not more, for a fulfilling future.
In fact, teenagers need to make mistakes, and for us to be OK with that so they can learn to do better next time.
By using a modality called PSYCH-K ® and having a chance to chat with you in a confidential session, I will carefully help you let go and start enjoying motherhood in a much more relaxed and joyful way.
There are also some simple steps you can take to start finding a more balanced approach motherhood.
- Understand that this is a season: it might be messy, but it is beautiful and ends all too quickly
- Let go of expectations: we are all unique and just need acceptance
- Have fun and be around others who are: get dirty and reward yourself for the effort of having fun
- Let your kids learn to be who they are rather than what would look best
- Stop negative talk as well as speaking in negative terms with your kids
- Be authentic, be real: not society’s version of what you think you should be
- Truly let go of the pursuit of being perfect and give yourself credit for simple doing your best
How does the idea of perfectionism resonate with you?
Do you have any tips to overcome this?
What bothers you most about being judged as a mum?
Do you admire spontaneous and messy mums?
Comment below and contact me if you’d like to explore the idea of having a more joyful season of motherhood with PSYCH-K.